Most of us enjoy our lives and seek to make them better and better. How to make them better? Most people agree that balance is the key.
How do you keep balance in your life? Do you have a process that allows you to know when things are 'off kilter'?
When you watch this video from Vishen Lakhiani you may choose to take a few notes. Definitely worth your time!
Enjoy!
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Showing posts with label Coelho. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Coelho. Show all posts
Tuesday, August 31, 2010
Saturday, March 20, 2010
The Alchemist - fourth obstacle
The fourth obstacle is fear too but this time it's fear of realizing the dream.
Sounds counter-intuitive, doesn't it, but think about this: if we get what we've been dreaming, desiring, programming and working for then what does that say about the people around us who aren't achieving their dreams?
Actually it doesn't say anything about them because we aren't dreaming their dream. However if this kind of thinking kicks in it may cause us to feel guilty.
With the goal within sight, within reach, we may pull back because we're - at least unconsciously - feeling guilty or undeserving.
Ever feel that you have sabotaged yourself in some way?
My friend says she shoots herself in the foot every time her life gets too good. IT'S TRUE. She does. And I've done it myself as well as watching others do the same thing. Think about it: do you?
Coelho says "This is the most dangerous of the obstacles because it has a kind of saintly aura about it: renouncing joy and conquest. But if you believe yourself worthy of the thing you fought so hard to get, then you....help the Soul of the World, and you understand why you are here."
Think about it. Examine your patterns. Root out old, limiting 'programs' and replace them with optimistic, exciting and joyfilled dreams and desires. Turn those into the objects of your programming and become all you can be!
Sounds counter-intuitive, doesn't it, but think about this: if we get what we've been dreaming, desiring, programming and working for then what does that say about the people around us who aren't achieving their dreams?
Actually it doesn't say anything about them because we aren't dreaming their dream. However if this kind of thinking kicks in it may cause us to feel guilty.
With the goal within sight, within reach, we may pull back because we're - at least unconsciously - feeling guilty or undeserving.
Ever feel that you have sabotaged yourself in some way?
My friend says she shoots herself in the foot every time her life gets too good. IT'S TRUE. She does. And I've done it myself as well as watching others do the same thing. Think about it: do you?
Coelho says "This is the most dangerous of the obstacles because it has a kind of saintly aura about it: renouncing joy and conquest. But if you believe yourself worthy of the thing you fought so hard to get, then you....help the Soul of the World, and you understand why you are here."
Think about it. Examine your patterns. Root out old, limiting 'programs' and replace them with optimistic, exciting and joyfilled dreams and desires. Turn those into the objects of your programming and become all you can be!
The Alchemist - third obstacle
The third obstacle is fear. Fear of the possible, even probable, defeats we'll face on the journey.
As a protection against such possible occurrances we always have the opportunity to say "Well, I knew it was a long shot. It doesn't really matter. I didn't really desire it."
IF we say that, we fall back into the old, comfortable, non-scary way of living which, while it feels comfortable, gives us no fulfillment.
Of course there are going to be times when we "fall". When we start something new, we don't know everything we need to know. We're inexperienced. We misjudge. We make mistakes. As Coelho says "The secret of life, though, is to fall seven times and to get up eight times."
We keep getting up until some day, we don't need to get up any more. By then we've learned a lot, empowered ourselves in a new and deeper way, developed unshakable confidence and proven ourselves and our commitment with and to ourselves.
Life is better and better every day! "Falls" come less often and are more shallow. We recover more quickly. Our eyes - all three of them - are focused on the prize, the dream, the desire. We realize that we're close to that desire...so close that it could occur any day now...and we're energized in ways we never before dreamed possible.
Onward and upward, standing tall as we dust off from a previous fall.
Next...the fourth obstacle.
Better & Better,
Barbara
As a protection against such possible occurrances we always have the opportunity to say "Well, I knew it was a long shot. It doesn't really matter. I didn't really desire it."
IF we say that, we fall back into the old, comfortable, non-scary way of living which, while it feels comfortable, gives us no fulfillment.
Of course there are going to be times when we "fall". When we start something new, we don't know everything we need to know. We're inexperienced. We misjudge. We make mistakes. As Coelho says "The secret of life, though, is to fall seven times and to get up eight times."
We keep getting up until some day, we don't need to get up any more. By then we've learned a lot, empowered ourselves in a new and deeper way, developed unshakable confidence and proven ourselves and our commitment with and to ourselves.
Life is better and better every day! "Falls" come less often and are more shallow. We recover more quickly. Our eyes - all three of them - are focused on the prize, the dream, the desire. We realize that we're close to that desire...so close that it could occur any day now...and we're energized in ways we never before dreamed possible.
Onward and upward, standing tall as we dust off from a previous fall.
Next...the fourth obstacle.
Better & Better,
Barbara
Friday, March 19, 2010
The Alchemist - the second obstacle
The second obstacle is love. Why love? Because we fear hurting the people we love by changing, leaving an old way of being / living and seeming to abandon them.
Those who love us desire our safety and thus, fear our change. After all, change may mean danger! They love us and desire our well-being.
(Now I digress from the book with my own experience.) Also, they love us and they love our way of life...our way of life with them.
When I moved across the continent almost all my friends wished me well even though we all were sad at the great distance. A few were angry with me.
Over time I came to realize that, on an unconscious level, they were actually threatened by my actions. If I could make a huge change like this, they could too. At least theoretically. Unconsciously it seemed almost a challenge in their perception.
Bottom line: People tend to avoid change. Are you?
If so, why? For whose well-being? Is it an obstacle for you?
Change isn't always the best choice and sometimes it is.
Blessings to all of us as, daily, we have the opportunity to change.
Better & Better,
Barbara
Those who love us desire our safety and thus, fear our change. After all, change may mean danger! They love us and desire our well-being.
(Now I digress from the book with my own experience.) Also, they love us and they love our way of life...our way of life with them.
When I moved across the continent almost all my friends wished me well even though we all were sad at the great distance. A few were angry with me.
Over time I came to realize that, on an unconscious level, they were actually threatened by my actions. If I could make a huge change like this, they could too. At least theoretically. Unconsciously it seemed almost a challenge in their perception.
Bottom line: People tend to avoid change. Are you?
If so, why? For whose well-being? Is it an obstacle for you?
Change isn't always the best choice and sometimes it is.
Blessings to all of us as, daily, we have the opportunity to change.
Better & Better,
Barbara
Thursday, March 18, 2010
Terrific book
As many of you know, I read a lot. A lot! Sometimes the books are the newest releases and some are older. Right now I'm rereading "The Alchemist" by Paulo Coelho...an older realease. Every part of this book - from Intro to end - is interesting, intriguing and thought provoking.
My attention returned to this book because of the 'new' exercises in the Silva Intuition Training: connect to Source and finding your life purpose. Coelho calls life purpose our personal legend, food for thought in itself.
In the introduction he speaks of four obstacles. The first is that from our earliest childhood we're told that everything we desire to do is impossible for us. It makes sense. Parents love us and desire to protect us and as very young people there are many things we physically do not have the capacity to do.
Whether from their love or fear for us our parents (and others) tell us many times that we "cannot do that" and as we grow up hearing this, it compounds with layers of prejudice, fear and guilt. Our earliest 'dreams' and desires become covered with these layers. But those dreams are still there.
Mental Housecleaning, discussed in the Silva Life System, is one of the best ways I know to begin unlayering ourselves. As we think of our various words, phrases, outlooks and beliefs - layers within - we have the opportunity to cast off those layers.
One example is 'judgement words' such as should, have to, must, need to and others. Oh...if I had a nickel for every time I've heard one of those words/phrases. I would love to have a nickel for every time I've said them to myself, my sons, anyone! In the class we talked about Where did they originate, How they impact our lives and Do we agree with them. Certainly worth attention! In fact we may agree with them and because it's conscious agreement, we're empowered. If we don't agree, kick it to the curb. Throw off that layer, that restraint. Either way, empowerment and freedom are the rewards!
Becoming lighter and freer with fewer layers to smother our dreams, we begin to get a glimpse of them once more. Casting off more layers draws our dreams closer and closer until one day the sun shines brightly upon them.
Or is it that the light shines FROM them into our awareness!
More later...
My attention returned to this book because of the 'new' exercises in the Silva Intuition Training: connect to Source and finding your life purpose. Coelho calls life purpose our personal legend, food for thought in itself.
In the introduction he speaks of four obstacles. The first is that from our earliest childhood we're told that everything we desire to do is impossible for us. It makes sense. Parents love us and desire to protect us and as very young people there are many things we physically do not have the capacity to do.
Whether from their love or fear for us our parents (and others) tell us many times that we "cannot do that" and as we grow up hearing this, it compounds with layers of prejudice, fear and guilt. Our earliest 'dreams' and desires become covered with these layers. But those dreams are still there.
Mental Housecleaning, discussed in the Silva Life System, is one of the best ways I know to begin unlayering ourselves. As we think of our various words, phrases, outlooks and beliefs - layers within - we have the opportunity to cast off those layers.
One example is 'judgement words' such as should, have to, must, need to and others. Oh...if I had a nickel for every time I've heard one of those words/phrases. I would love to have a nickel for every time I've said them to myself, my sons, anyone! In the class we talked about Where did they originate, How they impact our lives and Do we agree with them. Certainly worth attention! In fact we may agree with them and because it's conscious agreement, we're empowered. If we don't agree, kick it to the curb. Throw off that layer, that restraint. Either way, empowerment and freedom are the rewards!
Becoming lighter and freer with fewer layers to smother our dreams, we begin to get a glimpse of them once more. Casting off more layers draws our dreams closer and closer until one day the sun shines brightly upon them.
Or is it that the light shines FROM them into our awareness!
More later...
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